Well, here it is. For ages, I’ve been inspired to write a blog but was too frightened to take that first step. I was worried that I wouldn’t communicate well enough, that what I might have to say would come over in the wrong way and I might be misunderstood. I’ve been pretty frightened about lots of things in my life. Frightened to travel on my own, frightened to speak up about a vision I have, and even, too often, frightened to fall in love.
Yesterday, a friend of mine, Tariq, posted an article about 5 things to know before dating an entrepreneur. You can read the article here:
It seemed to me a pertinent theme in my life and made me reflect on times in my life when men I have dated have said that my ideas were ‘too big’, that they were worried that my expansive vision would be a threat to our relationship. I think this is something that, specifically, many women entrepreneurs might be able to relate to. So, this morning, I felt inspired to respond to that article in a way that helped me to express my own journey on that one and why I think there is always another view (see previous blog post, Ten reasons to date an enterpreneur).
As soon as I posted my blog, a friend Skyped me to ask whether this was an advertisement for why someone should date me! I laughed, and immediately thought I should unpost, for fear that I should be misunderstood. Ah, there’s that fear thing again. She countered her comments by saying that a relationship she had been hoping for had just broken up. She felt that she had done all she could to keep the relationship alive and that not everyone wants to live a ‘big’ life, that we shouldn’t try to live beyond what we are capable of and that life should be a balance of what you want and what you are able to do.
My fear said unpost: the earlier post would look arrogant and self-promoting. But the motivation for it had seemed right. And, right at that moment, I got another message in my inbox from a friend, saying how much she had loved the post.
So, I guess, I can only be authentic in sharing something I felt inspired to write this morning.
Everyone does have their own journey, it’s true, and we can not pass judgment on someone else’s decisions. But I do think there is always another way of looking at things.
When faced with a choice, that seems to boil down to an either/or situation, how much better would it be if we could surrender to a higher view of the person, the problem or the divergent paths that seem to be asking for a decision? How could we ask ourselves what it means to ‘think bigger’? To bring the clarity of love, wisdom and spiritual sense to help us to see what the situation is really calling for. How could we draw up from within ourselves the ability to do just that? To not think that to ‘think bigger’ is a choice that some make and that others don’t, but that we ALL have access, to the vision, integrity and capacity for love that is the present reality of who we all really are?
So, Tara, this blog post is for you. I don’t know what the future of your relationship holds but I do know that you are being asked right at this moment, to expand your view of what love means. As I have been asked myself also, and as we are all asked. And I know that you have just as much access to, and ability to continue in that glorious, wonderful, occasionally frightening but always humbling and liberating journey of love…..entrepreneur or not!
With love, Caroline
PS And thank you for helping me not to be frightened to post, but to be authentic in communicating what I believe to be true.